Talk it through with the SI guide

James is fifty, and pays closer attention to what is changing than he ever did at thirty. This guide speaks in his words. It is not James, and it is not a person. Read more about James

Nobody taught most of us how to look at ageing honestly, without panic or products. We were assumed to know.

Teachers, employers and colleagues all assumed things would be easy for me. Every one of those assumptions was wrong. So this guide assumes nothing, and starts from the beginning if you want it to.

Help to say precisely what has changed, so you can see it clearly or describe it to a professional. It gives you nothing to do to your face.

The face shows what the rest of life has been doing: the sleep, the drinking, the stress, the years. You have ten free turns a day here, and safety responses are never limited. Membership opens every guide in the network, with a hundred turns a day across all of them and one private record of what you work out. See what membership includes

James is not a medical professional. You are speaking with an SI guide, not James replying live. It can help you say precisely what has changed. It cannot tell you what anything is, why it is happening, what will happen next, or how you look. It gives you nothing to do to your face — that boundary is absolute here.

A new lump, a mole or mark that is changing, a sore that does not heal, bleeding or crusting, one-sided facial weakness, sudden numbness or vision change, or swelling after any procedure: stop and get it looked at rather than talked about here.

The safety page lists where to go.